Dear Prudence,

For months now I’ve been helping out a friend going through a failing relationship, and trying to help him get through it.  He says I’m the only positive person in his life and the only one showing that I care about his situation.  I have repeatedly told him that I would always be there for him if he needed me…no matter what.  And he has relied alot on me and vented when he was at his wits end sometimes.  I like to be his proverbial shoulder to cry on.  It’s very rewarding to know that your words have made someone feel better about a very terrible situation.  I feel good about myself when that happens.  You would think that if someone had such a positive influence on another person, they would be better off from it, or they would try to rememdy the situation.  But that’s not what’s happening.  He needs to GET OUT of the situation, but HE WON’T!!  It’s the most frustrating thing in the world!  What’s the point?  Why continue to bitch and whine about the situation and talk about how much you hate being in the situation if you don’t do anything about it?  Obviously, it’s either not as bad as it seems, or he really doesn’t want to be out of the situation.  

I’m at a loss.  I have no idea what else to say to him when he comes to me.  I’ve offered comfort and I’ve offered advice.  The advice goes through one ear and out the other apparently.  I could just throw my hands up and say “fuck this!” and not worry about him anymore.  But my heart won’t let me do that.  I guess all I can do is just be comforting to him during the hard times.  I’m done offering advice.  I’m done trying to help.  He obviously doesn’t want to help himself as bad as he tells me he does.  You can’t help someone that doesn’t want to help themselves.  It’s impossible. 

Sorry…I just needed to vent :)

howdoesitfuckingfeel:

have flawless skin, long eyelashes, a perfect nose, long hair, perfect teeth, curvy bodies, but yet they’re still skinny. I’m jealous of those girls that, no matter what they wear, they still look beautiful. Girls who are photogenic, who can make the craziest face, yet they still look cute. A girl who looks just as beautiful with makeup on as she does with it off.

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